Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Just a Tryst...

My son, attend unto my wisdom my wisdom,
and bow thine ear to my understanding.
That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.
For the lips of a strange woman drop as a honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword.
Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.
Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are movable, that thou canst not know them.
Hear me now therfore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth.
Remove thy way from her, and come not nigh the door of her house:
Lest not give thine honor unto others, and thy years onto the cruel:
Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labors be in the house of a stranger;
And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed.
And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised proof:
And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!
I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.
Drink waters out of thy own cistern, and running waters out thy own well.
Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe: let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with the bosom of a stranger?
For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all goings.
His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall holden with the cords of his sins.
He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly shall he go astray. Proverbs 5

As an unemployed dad of two trying to find a job and taking care of my spouse and two boys, it really pains me when someone who's "made it" in life decides to have a an affair. I'm not trying to be "holier than thou" or being hyper, or hypocritical. What I am pointing out is that God condemns adultery and when someone flouts this, it's a slap in the face to Him.

To translate this chapter in Proverbs for the King James impaired, It means to keep your paws to yourself. If you must have a fling, it better be with your wife. The Lord isn't into punishment, but the law of cause and effect will come into play. You could get sued, catch a venereal disease like Herpes, Gonorrhea, or AIDS (even with a condom, because viruses can and will get between the molecules of the best made latex and they break all the time). What's worse is that the jilted spouse could even take the law into their own hands; and you could die of lead poisoning. Even more so, they end up calling Joey Greco. I rest my case.

Unfortunately, Tiger Woods is finding this out after a tryst with a cocktail waitress. This has already cost him sponsorships and has torpedoed his career, probably forever. You can damage a lot of things and be able to fix or replace them, but a reputation is fragile and irreplaceable. It makes the damage to his Escalade insignificant by comparison. Just a note, I'm not out to defame this person, but to point out in no uncertain terms that God does not mess around. He's no respecter of persons either and while He isn't in the business of punishing anyone, he will allow our mistakes to catch up with us.

I know one fellow who did this who subsequently was left with nothing but two guns, a bag of clothes and an answering machine when his wife left him because of adultery. He has not turned this over to the Lord and still to this day has issues with infidelity. He lost everything and still yet to rebuild his life. He's been through five wives in forty years.

But no one can possibly avoid this sin on their own. The temptation is always there, as many of us have passions ingrained in our DNA. This is why we must turn this over to the Lord, and avoid compromising situations with another woman, or man (I'm talking heterosexual here, ladies too). This could be as simple for some as not going to the bar, ever. The other help will be to keep yourself busy. An idle mind is Satan's workshop and of someone has too much time and money, they're more likely to fail their marriage vows.

This isn't to say that someone unemployed could not do the same thing either. I don't propone class warfare, but the articles concerning the rich and shameless back this up.

Another thing about marriage while I'm at it. The next time you think bad of your spouse, remember the one who married him/her. That person in the mirror, if he/she is a Christian, is also a work in progress. The Lord wants you to honor your wedding vows. After all, your marriage is a representation of the relationship between Jesus and His church. Remember, we're all in this together. Life's short, pray hard.

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